This week’s book recommendation
Why is a book about unwanted sexual behavior included as a resource for Spiritual Abuse?
First, shame is the core of a Spiritually Abusive system. Abusers use shame to manipulate. Abusers are also likely experiencing their own sense of shame, which attracted them to a system where they could hide it.
Those who play a role in these systems also navigate shame. Shame causes them to latch onto and support abusers. Shame causes intentional blindness.
Shame keeps people silent.
According to Unwanted, shame lies at the heart of unwanted sexual behavior. These behaviors start out slow, in a quest to escape shame, which usually reveals itself as meaninglessness, boredom, or self-loathing.
One powerful Spiritual Abuse mechanism, which is the perfect example of the subtlety of Spiritual Abuse, is purity culture. We’ll get into purity culture in other articles, but it’s a great example of shame masquerading in the cloak of “good,” spiritual teaching.
And it’s done unquestionable amounts of harm.
Unwanted addresses this culture. It also addresses shame in general. It is important we grow in our understanding of shame as we understand our own stories in light of Spiritually Abusive systems.
This book makes it into The Vault as a great resource for understanding the shame behind Spiritual Abuse, and one facet of Spiritual Abuse, which is that of purity culture.